The situation reminds me of the fable of the scorpion and the frog. In case you don't know it, here it is: a scorpion and a frog meet on the bank of a stream and the scorpion asks the frog to carry him across on its back. The frog asks, "How do I know you won't sting me?" The scorpion says, "Because if I do, I will die too." The frog is satisfied, and they set out, but in midstream, the scorpion stings the frog. The frog feels the onset of paralysis and starts to sink, knowing they both will drown, but has just enough time to gasp "Why?" The scorpion shrugs and says, "It’s my nature."
The point isn't that she was a scorpion, simply that it was not in her nature (at that time) to commit to things. She constantly wanted new experiences, to meet new people and do new things. When she had an impulse, she followed it. When she tried to live a more conventional lifestyle, things didn't work out. Because she loved him and saw him as someone worthy of spending her life with, she tried to fight her nature. He also tried to make her change her nature through persuasion, etc. See, His nature was to seek stability, which ran counter to her desire for freedom from commitment.
Any relationship predicated on the need for one or both people to change on a fundamental level is doomed to failure.
As for why He was "stupid" enough to keep taking her back, well, He was brought up to believe that if you loved somebody, you had to be willing to sacrifice anything to be with them. We hadn't yet learned that love alone can't sustain a relationship, and that sometimes loving someone means letting them go for the good of everybody involved.
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